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afternoonsnoozebutton:

(Trigger warning: rape)

Did you see this piece Jezebel did about the reddit “other side of the rape story” thread? This is why we can’t have nice things. Quote from the article: 

“We have to acknowledge that the people telling these stories and making these decisions are the men (and women) next door, not necessarily inhuman savages. Otherwise, anti-rape campaigns will continue to tell victims to dress and act differently as a matter of “prevention,” college campuses will continue to report high rates of sexual assault, and people will continue to take advantage of others without even looking them in the eye while doing so.”

Yes, Jezebel, that’s right. Sympathy for rapists is what will really solve the problem here. Instead of acknowledging the dehumanization of the victims, let’s just focus on the dehumanization of the victimizers. 

THIS IS WHY NOBODY LIKES YOU JEZEBEL!

Jezebel just stays losing.

and this is why i fucking hate jezebel.

I sent this thread to Jezebel’s tip email with the comment “Thread requesting stories from actual rapists, turns into circlejerk of rape apologia.”

I can’t help but feel slighted at their response… Some of the lines feel like I’m being personally admonished for finding the responses to the rapists disturbing. 

Now that I’m Tumbling, I’m really considering giving up Reddit. 

That’s…

That’s a disturbing turn of events, needless to say. I’d expected better, personally.

hey look more reasons to say “Fuck Jezebel”

Fuck Jezebel. 

I really can’t even. How can you read this shit and then ask for sympathy for them?

"I ignored her and did it"

"This hypersexual person who had offered to give me head suddenly didn’t want to touch me"

"I was much stronger than her"

"I wanted to take it further"

"She never said stop or anything

No fuck  you. That’s classic rape apologist and male privilege bullshit. That’s not novel. That’s shit we hear all the fucking time, that’s shit rape victims and survivors hear all the time.

Sympathizing with rapists won’t help stop rape, this is fucking sick.

Love,

Taylor 

[TW: RAPE] What is your opinion on rape fantasy? I’m getting a TON of shit for being against kink-shaming and rape-play-shaming right now, and I was just curious on your opinion of it.

 squ33ble

There’s nothing wrong with it, because the key word here is “play”. That means the entire scenario is consensual, the opposite of rape. Those who engage in rape play will also (SHOULD) have a safe word or motion that will let the other person know when to stop. It doesn’t promote rape culture (how can it when it’s the opposite? It involves communication and ensuring that the involved parties want this, will enjoy this and there is even a back up plan if anything goes wrong)

Fantasies are fucking hot. They’re sexy. You are in control, no matter if you’re submissive or dominating. A fantasy means no matter what you’re running the show. A rape does not. A rape is not sexy, it’s disgusting and violating. If there was something actually wrong with rape-play, people wouldn’t actively engage in it because no on would want to feel like that. The two are completely different. 

If it’s consensual, and all parties involved are being safe, then who the fuck cares. Kink and rape plays aren’t for everyone. But if you don’t want to partake in it, then fucking don’t. That doesn’t mean they get to decide it’s “wrong” or “weird” how someone consensually decides with their partner(s) to get off.

C’mon. 

Love,

Taylor

Rebloggable by request <3

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siuilaruin:

stfuhypocrisy:

Sluts say THIS you arrogant little shit! (by Divinity33372)

Wow! This is an awesome video. She fucking owns this guy!

[TW FOR SLUT-SHAMING, RAPE APOLOGY, VICTIM-BLAMING, RAPE CULTURE ETC]

FANTASTIC VIDEO

Just watch it.

And click through to the Youtube version to see the links to the video she is talking about. That guy just makes me want to puke. 

lucypaw

thundercalls:

On August 31, 2009 James Hornik was raped by another male in Hollywood, California. Mr. Hornik found himself in great need of police assistance and called on the LAPD, trusting that they would help him in his sudden predicament. When asked if he could press charges against his attacker, the LAPD officers simply responded, “A gay man can’t be raped”. Mr. Hornik was treated at Cedars Sinai Hospital but was denied a forensic rape collection kit by the LAPD, whose job it is to issue such kits through their forensic team.

James Hornik has been fighting for more understanding and recognition that men (gay or straight) can be raped ever since that muggy night in August of 2009 with very little help at all. He has contacted organizations such as LAMBDA Legal, GLAAD, the ACLU, the NoH8 Campaign and various others only to be denied help and led in circles. Mr. Hornik even filed the proper complaints with the city, county and the LAPD internal investigation team. The LAPD was exonerated from any wrong doing or neglect by the mayor.

The goal of this petition is to demand that the LAPD make a formal apology to Mr. Hornik and the citizens of Los Angeles County in general for their failure to recognize what was and is a very serious situation and a growing problem within the gay community and society as a whole.

Pause for one moment and ask yourself, what if it happened to you and no one heard your cries?

EDIT: You can read more about it here from James himself, including the fact that his attacker had him charged with grand theft and got James arrested. He won in his trial, luckily, and now in the process of supporters trying to get an apology for him, he’s trying to take his case against the LAPD, the officers involved, and the City of Los Angeles to Federal Court as a civil rights case.

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slutwalknyc:

[image: A teenaged boy at Slutwalk NYC. He has short pink hair and is wearing jeans and baggy grey tshirt. His jeans are ripped at the knee, but are otherwise unremarkable, and his tshirt has some sort of maroon logo. He is looking directly at the camera, and holding a large white sign. His sign reads: THIS IS WHAT I WAS WEARING. TELL ME I ASKED FOR IT. I DARE YOU.]

slutwalknyc:

[image: A teenaged boy at Slutwalk NYC. He has short pink hair and is wearing jeans and baggy grey tshirt. His jeans are ripped at the knee, but are otherwise unremarkable, and his tshirt has some sort of maroon logo. He is looking directly at the camera, and holding a large white sign. His sign reads: THIS IS WHAT I WAS WEARING. TELL ME I ASKED FOR IT. I DARE YOU.]

tiltingtowardthesun

Trigger warning for partner consent issues, rape

At first, I didn’t know what she meant. She spoke so softly I had to lean across the table to hear her. “I don’t want to hurt your feelings,” she said, “but sometimes I really don’t want to have sex. Sometimes I do, but not as often as you want it. And sometimes I want to tell you ‘no,’ but I can’t bring myself to do it. So I try and send you signals, hoping you can just tell how I’m feeling. But that doesn’t work, so it’s… it’s just easier to say ‘yes’ or just say nothing at all.”

My face flushed. I felt nauseated. I thought instantly of the previous night, where we’d grabbed what I thought was a hot half-hour when my roommates were both gone. Katie had seemed so passionate when we’d been making out, but then gotten very quiet once all our clothes were off. I’d told myself she wanted to have one ear cocked for the sound of a key in the door. I hadn’t considered—or hadn’t wanted to consider—the more obvious possibility: she was trying to tell me that she didn’t want to have sex.

I looked out the window. I couldn’t meet Katie’s eyes. My gaze fixed in the distance, my voice trembling, I asked what seemed the only possible question: “Are you trying to tell me I raped you?”

I was in my first women’s studies course, and just the previous week we’d been reading about sexual violence and the law. In class, where I was one of only three men, I’d felt rage thinking about all of those cruel assholes who didn’t understand that “no means no.” But now a dark and unseen possibility was opening up: not every “no” could be spoken. Maybe, I realized, sometimes even a quiet “OK” could be a “no” in disguise.

Katie started to cry. “Oh God, Hugo. No. Not rape. It’s just… I wish you could tell the difference between when I really want you and when I’d just rather be held.” She began to cry harder. “Fuck. It’s all my fault,” she wept. “I can’t expect you to be a mindreader. I’m so sorry.”

The Accidental Rapist — The Good Men Project

So much of the activism against sexual violence posits rapists as a subspecies of human, deliberately malicious, a separate breed that - if eradicated - will solve all our problems. Yet how often do we look into ourselves to see if we are part of the problem?

Perhaps when we consider the idea that we could be abusers too - want it or not - we can start coming up with more solutions that don’t assume Good/Bad splits, that don’t force assumptions of “They can’t have done that, they’re a GOOD PERSON!”, that doesn’t also end up finding fault with the victim because they weren’t perfectly innocent.

(via creatrixtiara)

I wish I had the courage to have this conversation. 

(via darkjez)

onceuponanotsolongtimeago
***TRIGGER WARNING RAPE CULTURE***



I’m not condoning rape, obviously. You should never rape anyone…unless you have a reason like, you want to fuck someone and they won’t let you. In which case, what other option do you have?

Louis CK said this. This is his joke, you guys. Think about that shit. It’s not edgy comedy, this type of bullshit is one of the reasons why my rapist doesn’t care that he raped me and still laughs about it.

Louis CK perpetuates rape culture.

(via splatterdick)

And this is why I didn’t understand why he was being celebrated on my dash only a couple days ago, besides the fact that he’s also used racist, sexist and a variety of other slurs. Fuck Louis CK.

Love,

Taylor

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et-tu-dionyse:

I couldn’t help myself after this post.
Dear OP,
This is my body. Keyword being ‘my’.And you know what? You do not have the right to sexualize any part of it without my permission and that includes my breasts.
This isn’t porn.
This isn’t sexual.
This is my body and I’m not going to be ashamed of it just because you think I should be.
My body is not indecent. My body is beautiful, beautiful, beautiful and incredibly flawed and natural and modified and a lot of silly and subjective things but most important my body is MINE and will always be so.
Take your slut-shaming elsewhere.

et-tu-dionyse:

I couldn’t help myself after this post.

Dear OP,

This is my body. Keyword being ‘my’.
And you know what? You do not have the right to sexualize any part of it without my permission and that includes my breasts.

This isn’t porn.

This isn’t sexual.

This is my body and I’m not going to be ashamed of it just because you think I should be.

My body is not indecent. My body is beautiful, beautiful, beautiful and incredibly flawed and natural and modified and a lot of silly and subjective things but most important my body is MINE and will always be so.

Take your slut-shaming elsewhere.