I don’t care who you are, so long as you possess the cuntmentality. I want you naked. I want you clothed. I want your stories. I want your differences. I want you just the way you are and I want you on this blog.
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What's the Cuntmentality anyway?
A few things first. You don’t have to own a cunt to have the Cuntmentality or even want one. Cunts exist all across the gender spectrum, and affect a wide variety of people. Though just a disclaimer, cis men should tread carefully here, I don't have time to hold your hand and break that down for you.
The Cuntmentality is raw power, derived from a sea of unlimited thoughts, experiences, opinions, fears, dreams, goals, and so forth. It is a call to remove genitals from gender, for cunts are not wed to only one dot in the entire Universe of Gender. It is an idea, an undying answer to those who are need of a safe space, of acceptance and acknowledgement of your pain or shared with others like you. It is the force that bashes back, that doesn't give in, that raises a fist against every oppressive force trying to drive you back into the cultural rot so you can degrade in ignorance and in false messages that claim you're unworthy or that who you are isn't good enough. This is you, this is me, this is every follower that I have in a collective of uncensored beauty that doesn't follow the direction label of the magazine rack. This is the be who the fuck you want to be so long as you're not hurting anyone else mentality. This is the stand up for the people around you mentality. The fuck you I'm queer mentality. The I don't always love myself but today I might mentality. The I'm fucking fabulous mentality. This is the change in perception, the challenge of social norms that dictate how you think, and breathe, the acknowledgment of institutional oppression and every voice that has had the courage to speak up about it, mentality.
The world is unbalanced my friends. We have been lied to on countless occasions. Just know that here, you are never alone and that if you ever need it, I'm never too far. My ask is always open and you're more than welcome to add me on my messenger accounts.
If you have any more, or alternate links just in case these ever get removed, feel free to add to the list. Pass the resources along!
- Ain’t I a Woman (pdf)
- Art on my Mind (pdf download)
- Beauty Laid Bare: Aesthetics in the Ordinary (google doc)
- Black Women Intellectuals (pdf) (from Breaking Bread: Insurgent Black Intellectual Life with Cornel West)
- Cultural Criticism and Transformation (pdf download)
- Cultural Criticism and Transformation (youtube video, part 1)
- Ending Domination: The Struggle Continues (youtube video, full)
- Feminism Is For Everybody (pdf)
- Is Paris Burning? (pdf download)
- Love as the Practice of Freedom (pdf download)
- Outlaw Culture (pdf download)
- Race and Representation (pdf download)
- Remembered Rapture: Dancing With Words (pdf)
- Selling Hot Pussy: Representations of Black Female Sexuality in the Cultural Marketplace. (pdf)
- Teaching to Transgress: Education as the Practice of Freedom (pdf download)
- The Oppositional Gaze: Black Female Spectators. (pdf)
- Understanding Patriarchy (pdf)
- Where We Stand: Class Matters (pdf)
- We Real Cool: Black Men and Masculinity (pdf). Also here.
Edit as of 24 June: list updated and alphabetized. Many thanks to wretchedoftheearth, elainecastillo, grim-dark, erosum and mmmajestic who all helped add links and resources.
Edit 25 June. Thank you andreaisace. (I keep each of these edit-notes so I and people who’ve seen the post know if I’ve added any and which since the last time they saw it. The links go to the post in which each link was given)
If you haven’t been watching The Colbert Report the past few nights, you probably missed Mr. Colbert’s random potshot transgender people. In a segment on controversial meat additive known as pink slime, Colbert remarked on the alternative name for pink slime, LFTB, saying “LFTB, because our beef now has so many hormones in it that it’s a part of the transgender community.”
Shockingly, some transgender people were offended compared to hormone-laden slime in a story that had absolutely nothing to do with the transgender community. Just like every other mention of trans* people by Colbert, we were only brought in as a punchline.
Now, I certainly didn’t like the joke, but it’s not even close to worst thing Colbert has ever said about trans folk. In January of this year , Colbert invoked the sh-word (rhymes with female, nowhere near as nice) at his Carolina rally to make lame pun on Herman Cain’s first name.
I didn’t expect anything more to come from Colbert’s comment — For some reason he always seems to get a free pass for these kinds of comments. — but the next night, Colbert did issue an apology for the joke. Unfortunately he decided to issue that appology to “any of [his] transgender bovine viewers that may have been offended.” He goes on to mock the argument against forcing strict gender roles on children, which is not strictly even a transgender issue.
So Colbert makes the “mistake” (his word) of calling transgender people hormone-filled slime and “apologizes” for it by calling us cattle. We’ll I’m satisfied, aren’t you?
This comment wouldn’t stick out if Colbert did not already have such a strong history of making disparaging comments about transgender people or if even once on his program he ever covered a story relevant to the transgender community. A search for the tag “transgender” on ColbertNation.com yields 3 results: the two videos mentioned above and an interview with George Stephanopoulos where Colbert jokes about Joe Biden getting sexual reassignment surgery so he could become the first female vice president. Classy.
And do I even have to point out that while Colbert has never had an openly transgender guest on his show, Dan Savage has personally been a guest five times!
Handbasket Productions has an incomplete list of the use of transphobic and trans-insensitive jokes on The Colbert Report and its sister-program The Daily Show. The only goes up to 2007, and there have been plenty since, so if you have any jokes from The Colbert Report or The Daily Show against transgender people that particularly hurt or offended you, please share them in the comments below and your reaction to them. I plan on compiling the worst of them into a single video so links to the actual clips would be appreciated.
[Trigger Warning: Cissexism; discussion of hate crimes-]
One opinion automatically deserves “you’re a cissexist douchefuck and a shitty person.” No wonder people mainly ignore these views. I’ve been gone from Tumblr too long to have remembered what a trainwreck it is. They don’t understand biology and won’t until they want to.
I’m not going to medically treat you and diagnose you as if you’re a cat when you’re a human being. Science does change, yes, and if it ever changes toward the feminist view I will consider myself wrong.
Good day to you people who can’t offer up intellectual debate to people with differing views. To those of you who were respectful, I’m sorry. But some of your community can’t handle any sort of disagreement.
You’re not just one opinion. You’re not just one person. You are apart of something here. You are apart of the majority and you’re opinion is the assumed by the rest of society. Anger does not manifest out of nothingness, it is created. Anger is essentially a reaction, and a response this intense is not unjustified. You and people like you are the reasons why trans* folk are kept jobless, homeless and essentially turned into victims. You are and your opinion strengthen the idea that who we are is wrong, and that so that our lives and who we are are not brought into question or even threaten we must assimilate to YOUR ideals and ways of living.
The “oh-poor-me!” argument is really tiring, not to mention derailing. You and what you’re saying is something that we have to deal with day in and day out. Your opinion is what makes going out into public difficult. Your opinion is what turns strangers’ laughter into a safety concern. Your opinion is what keeps our identity hidden and under a shroud. Your opinion is what turns our mothers into our own enemies. Your opinion aids in upholding current laws that do not recognize trans* people for who they are therefore denying them rights to jobs, protection from discrimination, and a million other things that concern our safety and well being. Your opinion is why 1 in 2 trans* people kill themselves before they reach the age of 20.
Your opinion is not a novel concept. We’ve seen you before. In fact, I’m pretty sure most of us have to deal with several other people just like you daily. Don’t act like their anger isn’t justified. Don’t pretend that your ideas are not harmful, when in fact they are detrimental to our well being, both socially and mentally. No one likes to be wrong, and we hate to admit to it. But think for a second and realize that we’re not lashing out just because we thought it was going to be a good day to be a gigantic unreasonable asshole today to the first person who said something remotely offensive, but because people are tired of being treated like absolute shit and like their voices do no matter or are invalidated because they don’t have a medical license.
It shouldn’t be this hard to be who you are.
This is somewhat going to be a long post.
First thing, I’ll introduce my self.
My name is Camilla. I’m from Norway and are 19 years old.
I’m a student at Oslo National Academy of the Arts.
I have an ongoing art project that will count as half of my grade this year.
The project is a celebration to “woman’s vagina” and currently have about 150 contributors to it. All trans* people are very welcome to contribute!
Now here is where the problems come in. I want it to representative to all kinds of shapes and sizes and so on, but most people I know and that already have contributed would only do so if they were shaved. I’m having serious trouble
finding anybody that does have hair and willing to take a picture of it for my project.
Now I’m wondering and begging if anyone could help me complete my project. It is completely anonymous.
I have not any rewards for helping me out other than giving you access to all the other pictures taken for the project. I was going to keep it a secret which one is mine, but I’m willing to tell those of you who help.
Please help out a girl in need, I’m getting desperate. Not more than a couple of weeks until I have to present it.
The project is named “Gøy, Interessant, Godt, Godtagelse, Alle, Mennesker” or “giggam” for short.
It’s Norwegian and stands for “Fun, interesting, Acceptance, Everyone, Human”
I have a link to a site with over 150 censored pictures of the project in it. Ask me about it if you’re wondering what its all about.
Okay, I realize that this project has a major flaw with dealing with trans* folk. I’ve spoken to the OP and she really wants to be able to open this up to ALL genders, but the deadline is in about three weeks (Dec. 16) and she’s worried that she won’t have enough contributors to be able to rewrite the project. She would also appreciate any suggestions that you can provide to help make this more inclusive within the time frame.
I adore the idea and I love how accepting she’s being. I would really love if we could signal boost this and help her work out the kinks and help her have a finished product. Even if you don’t wish to contribute, it would be great if you could signal boost this or offer any thoughts to help her out.
trigger warning: light discussion of eating disorders, misgendering trans* people, and self harm; in-depth discussion of body shame and negative emotions
Love Your Body - or don’t
Love Your Body is a sweet, pithy little anthem frequently bandied about in feminist circles. It’s an admirable goal: we would all probably be happier humans if it were as easy to internalize this parcel of positivity as it is to internalize the shame and loathing for our bodies that mainstream media is so adamant about distributing to us. We keep using the phrase because it’s easy and because it’s hard to embrace negative emotions, and because sometimes we feel like the only way to build a culture of body positivity is to shout louder than the media, as often as we can.
But loving your body ain’t that simple. Furthermore, the Love Your Body mantra can be downright alienating and silencing to folks who aren’t feeling the self love right now. Telling someone who is dealing with body image issues, “but you’re beautiful — love your body!” is kind of like telling someone who is dealing with depression, “but you have such a great smile — be happy!” If it were that easy we would’ve done it! We know you’re trying to be supportive, but it would be better for you to take our feelings seriously rather than telling us they are unfounded, unnecessary, frivolous, or trivial, all of which are implied by the statement, “but you’re beautiful, you should just love your body!”
The Love Your Body events I’ve attended tend to be celebratory; they tend to be welcoming to people who have already achieved the task of loving their bodies and not particularly welcoming or sensitive to those who haven’t. Love Your Body discourse tends to exclude and silence folks who don’t or can’t tout that standard at the moment.
Trans* folk often (but not always) experience body dysphoria that makes body positivity pretty difficult. When people are constantly misgendering you because of your body shape or features, then yeah, loving your body might be pretty out of reach for you.
If you self harm, you might feel like it’s not okay to show fresh wounds, only healed scars — that it’s okay to have hated your body once upon a time as long as you have overcome that and love it now.
If you’re living with an eating disorder, you may feel really vulnerable, out of place, and unwelcome at a Love Your Body Week open mic. You might feel like you can’t bring yourself to stand in front of the mic and say what you’re truly feeling about your body and how you’re dealing with those feelings, because it will probably burst the happy bubble of poetry and music about how we used to hate our bodies but now that we’re enlightened we love our body hair and bellies and biceps, and you don’t want to ruin the sheen of collective accomplishment. You don’t want to be told to work harder at loving yourself, or even that you’ll get there one day.
If you’re in a place where you really do love your body, all or most of the time, that’s awesome! But it’s also okay to NOT love your body just yet, or not love all of it, or not all the time. You have permission to feel however you feel about your body. That’s valid too. You have a right to your own feelings. They are part of who you are too, and a part of your body, and that’s yours.
Some emphasis mine.
So, I was totally about to write up a similar post to this one because it’s incredibly true and thank you for writing this, Maisha. So, I’m even guilty of joining in this crowd as well, while subsequently excluding those who are struggling with developing a positive relationship with their body, myself included. Why? Because it sounds nice, it feels nice at first but when you get down to it…it doesn’t go far enough. Not only that there are more problems outlined above. Being body-positive shouldn’t just concentrate on loving your body while inadvertently (and sometimes, intentionally) silencing those who do not, but celebrating our differences no matter what shape or form they may take place. Just because someone holds a possibly negative or discomforting view of theirself doesn’t mean that it is somehow a threat to being able to love yourself.
If the movement has worked for you, that’s great! But I’ve found more and more posts speaking out against people who go through cosmetic procedures and claiming their upholding patriarchal standards of beauty; bigotry towards people with eating disorders and/or thinspo (don’t get me wrong, I don’t agree with thinspo but be reminded that it is the product of people with eating disorders and not the cultural degradation of non-thin people); and generally negative and disgustingly hateful opinions about anyone who do not love themselves, almost as if they are somehow at fault. That’s utter bullshit.
We have enough people fighting against us, why create more? The body-positive movement should be an open conversation that allows for the voices of those who don’t love themselves regardless if that’s permanent or temporary for whatever reason. Because when we exclude these voices we not only hurt other people but also, ourselves. There are people that work within the movement that may not love themselves for whatever reason that is, and I’ve noticed a lot of those who do speak openly about it say they feel guilty or like a hypocrite for feeling this way. When we erase these people, pretend that everyone within the community is perfectly okay with themselves and that people who don’t are somehow wrong, we close off a part of the conversation that deals with disability that is both visible and not, trans* issues or anything else that we want to ignore, but it doesn’t go away. It keeps growing, like an ingrown toenail, digging right in the flesh of the movement. It can start as a slow aching throb but the further it digs in, the more painful it becomes and is like to lead to infection.
I am all for loving bodies in all shapes, sizes, colors, genders, and so on and so forth. You don’t have to look far into this blog to understand that. I’m not saying we should stop that by any means. I am saying, as said above, that we should acknowledge that it is always not so black and white. Not everyone has the ability to love themselves and the people that don’t need to be supported, not belittled or excluded or made felt like their emotions or feelings are somehow invalidated or threatening to us. We should realize that the revolution does not always lie in someone’s capability to love their body inside and out but in simply being themselves, even if that means speaking of their experience in full despite the angst and any possible blatant self-hatred.
Because as a person that struggles with dysphoria, bipolar disorder (which both have become increasingly worse since July) and a number of abuses and personal issues, loving myself and who I am has always been a challenge and may fluctuate, but what I say, do and how I see the world’s many faces of beauty are still important. My experience and self-struggles do not invalidate anything that I do nor does it make me a weaker part of the feminist or body positive community. You don’t have to love yourself to be wanted, desired or even strong. You don’t have to love yourself to give support to other people, or considered a person of value. That’s such bullshit. And you know, sometimes when we feel comfortable enough to speak about it, the simple act of having a discussion about our darkest truths and letting another person know that they are not alone in the way they are feeling is beautiful and grants far more growth than telling them to shut up ever would.