I’m sorry do what?


Remember the game last year about what color bra you were wearing at the moment? (I don’t but that’s beside the point…) The purpose was to increase awareness of October Breast Cancer Awareness month. It was a tremendous success and we had men wondering for days what was with the colors and it made it to the news. This year’s game has to do with your handbag/purse, where we put our handbag the moment we get home for example “I like it on the couch”, “I like it on the kitchen counter”, “I like it on the dresser” well u get the idea. Just put your answer as your status with nothing more than that and cut n paste this message and forward to all your FB female friends to their inbox. The bra game made it to the news. Let’s see how powerful we women really are!!! 

I have a problem with this. 
Why do I need to make a pretty blatant sexual reference, even though *tehehe* I’m not really talking about sex, to “see how powerful we women really are” 
I don’t understand the correlation here, other than it makes men think of me in a way I am ENTIRELY uncomfortable with. Because these stupid things are not about breast cancer awareness, or trying to make the news, or doing something liberating for the female sex. Its just another way of subjecting yourself to the male imagination, another way to gain attention, another way to use your body instead of your brain,  and then feeling all high and mighty when you say “I wasn’t talking about THAT, I was talking about my handbag silly!” Its stupid, its stupid to think this can somehow prove how powerful you are, and I seriously don’t understand it. At all. 
Maybe I’m a prude. But I know that I am capable of awesome things without succumbing to pointless, annoying, and objectifying facebook trends. 

You know, I didn’t even think about it like this when I got it, so I really like this point.

My first response was “Uh. I don’t have a handbag/purse, and not all women do”. Which is true, and another part of how we are separated into boxes and shoved aside. Not all women (and no, it’s not just because I’m a Dyke either) like to carry around purses or handbags and we shouldn’t assume that all women do. Handbags and purses don’t make a woman. 

But you’re right. Its annoying, pointless and objectifying. We’re setting ourselves up for jokes that may or may not be wanted, and I highly doubt someone wants that creepy friend you added out of guilt or haven’t talked to in years because they became creepy, to get all excited because they think you like it in the kitchen. If you aren’t comfortable with that, then no one has the right to tell you you are being prudish or a killjoy. 

Also, this game will not raise awareness for breast cancer. Its sexist and cissexist to assume that only women (with handbags) will recieve breast cancer. Trans men, as well as cis men, should be aware that they still need to check themselves and are still susceptible to breast cancer. If you want to raise awareness for breast cancer, there are other ways to get involved (check out the How To Help section on the sidebar). That’s only one place, you can google it to find out other ways as well.