I’ve had several questions concerning safer sex before, so I’m going to do this in one happy STI-free post.
I recommend these for everyone before you become fluid-bonded with a partner. Asking a new partner about their STI status is not foolproof. Thanks to generations of shaming for having STI’s and having sex in general, being truthful in this area of discussion may not always happen.
These are some examples of what you can do without genital touching from a partner:
What you can do while coming in contact with your partner(s)’ genitals
Okay, so now lets go a little more in-depth:
Oral Sex with a female-assigned partner:
Use dental damns, Lolleys or Saran wrap for cunninglus and rimming. There are several types of damns that you can search for and I’ve only really found them at sex shops, online and in my area. But you can even make your own out of an unlubed condom or one of your latex gloves or use some plastic wrap. I personally enjoy damns more ‘cos they’re normally flavored and I hate the taste of latex.
"Okay, I got the barrier…now what?"
Put some waterbased (or glycerin-free if you’re prone to yeast infections) lube on the genital side of the barrier (You can mark it with a marker or something if you think you’ll forget which side has the lube) and stretch it over your partners genitals. If you’re using Saran wrap you can stretch it all the way from their anus to their vulva and take one long, forbidden lick from anus to clit. Although some people find this method to be inconvenient because of your lack of free hand. You can ask your partner you’re pleasuring (or even better, a third partner ;D) to hold the barrier in place for you.
If your partner enjoys penetration, roll a condom on your tongue and dive down. You can also snap on a glove while you’re teasing their clit.
Oral sex on a male-assigned partner or a detachable penis:
Your penis and/or toys love to play dress up - put on that condom (or if your partner is male-assigned, you COULD skip the condom but avoid ejaculation in your mouth).
If you’re confused to how someone wearing a strap-on cock can find fellatio pleasuring, then ask them. Some find watching their partner suck them while on their knees to be amazing, others enjoy the clitoral stimulation from the dildo to be incredible. Although I can’t explain it, it’s a different kind of orgasm all together and it’s amazing.
Finger and hand play:
Don’t forget to use gloves for hand-to-vulva or hand-to-anus contact for finger-fucking or fisting. You can use surgical latex gloves or Nitrile gloves for those who are allergic to latex. Although the gloves you buy from the store are generally going to be white or non-colored, but sex stores offer (in my opinion) better quality and multi-colored gloves.
NEVER go from anal to vaginal without switching gloves!
Sharing is caring:
If you have multiple partners or you’re switching from vaginal to anal or even to mouth, then switch condoms on your toys. Don’t forget to clean them thoroughly with antibacterial soap between uses.
Only use water-based lube:
Never use oil-based lube while using latex products because it will break down the latex. Also, while oil-based lube can be great fun (because its very slick and hardly ever dries up) for fluid-bonded partners never use it in the vagina or anus because it’s EXTREMELY hard to wash off and does not do well with the vagina’s ecosystem.
If you are having yeast infections, then it might be your lube. I recommend switching to something that is glycerin-free as the sugar in the lube could be what is causing the build up of yeast. Avoid products containing nonoxynol-9. In some far off laboratory, it’s been shown to kill HIV. However, it’s also known to be irritating to vaginal and rectal tissue and can actually lead to an increase of vaginal infections and an increase risk of HIV transmission.
How to dispose of gloves/condoms:
In order to prevent contact to bodily fluids, turn the gloves and condoms inside out as you pull them off.
My partner just got a manicure?!
Before you pull the glove on, grab some cotton balls and put them on their fingers and viola! your pleasure won’t ruin their fashion!
For Anal Lovers:
Even if you’re using safer sex techniques, and even more so if you aren’t, if you are having anal sex then it’s highly recommend that you get your Hepatitis A shot!
Lube. Lube. Lube. Lube. Lube. Lube.
Annnnnd that’s it!
This is just a rough guideline, but I hope it answers all of the questions in my inbox and then some. So, grab your favorite sex partner and try some of them out ;D If there is something I missed, PLEASE let me know.